Carolina Dean

Wiccaning Ritual

Roots and Wings 

A Rite of Passing

On the Anniversary of a Loved One's Death

Handfasting Ritual  

A Wiccaning is comparable to a 'christening' in the Christian Tradition. During a Wiccaning the child is formally named, and presented to the world. If possible, all members of the family, or at least the immediate family, should be in attendance with various branches of the family tree represented as well.

In addition, anyone who will love or care for the child should also be invited. Guests are allowed to bring small gifts which are symbolic of their wishes for the child, for example a rose, for beauty; stock certificates, for wealth; a book, for intelligence, etc

Before the age of modern medical care, the community would wait until they were sure they child was going to survive before performing any form of Wiccaning. For this reason, there is no specific timeframe for this ritual to be performed. However, below are a few guidelines:

• At the first Full Moon Esbat after the child is born.
• At the first Sabbat after the child is born.
• A year and a day after conception.
• Three Days to Three Months after birth.

Obviously the time that you choose to perform the ritual is entirely up to you. The only requirement is that both the parents and the child have recovered enough from the birthing experience and have adjusted enough to the changes that a new child brings into a household. The day of the ritual all participants, including the child should be well rested.

The Ritual

Place a small basin of water on top of a flat stone. Flank the basin with a pink candle on the left and a blue candle on the right, and before this burn incense. 

Light the candles and incense.  Cast the Circle

Invoke Deity

Mother& Father of us all,

we ask that you now hear our call;

we invite you into this sacred space

to help us bring this child to grace.

Invoke the Ancestors

I now call forth from space & time,

honorable spirits of our bloodline;

to join with us who’ve gathered here

and help us bless this child so dear

HP addresses the crowd:

“We are gathered here today to welcome the next generation into our family. Today we will point this child down the path of his destiny, and give him not only our name, which is his legacy by birthright, but his own name and his own identity. He will be blessed by our Lord and Lady, shielded by the elements, and loved by us all.

As witches, we know that to name a thing is to have power over that thing. Therefore, in accordance with our tradition, the parents of this child have given him/her two names. The first will be the name by which the world will know him in this life. The second, known only by his Mother and Father, will be his true name.

What name have you given your son/daughter?

Parents: We have named him/her _______________.

Parents hold child facing North. HP moves to the North and Sprinkles some salt on the child saying:

I call the powers of earth and creation

to bless (N) & give him a foundation

built upon strength and health,

growth, stability, and of wealth.

Parents hold the child facing East. HP moves to the East and censes the child with the incense saying:

I call the powers of air and mind

to bless (N) that he may find;

patience, wit, intelligence,

discretion and eloquence.

Parents hold the child facing South. HP moves to the South and passes the fire candle over the child saying:

I call the powers of fire and soul,

to bless (N) & make him whole;

Grant him a spirit untamed & free,

bless him with passion and bravery.  

Parents hold the child facing West. HP moves to the West and sprinkles the child with water saying:

I call the powers of water and heart,

to now bless (N) and impart;

unto him compassion & love,

& all of the blessings thereof.

The HP and Parents Return to the Altar. HP says,

“Family and friends, I present to you (N). S/he is born of our flesh and of our spirit; and because of that we vow to be his strength when he is weak, to guide him/her when s/he is lost, to feed his/her mind when s/he is curious, to nurture his/her body when s/he is hungry, to lift him up when s/he is downtrodden, to exercise patience as we journey together from child to adult and beyond, and finally to love and respect him/her always. So Mote it Be!

Everyone in attendance repeats: So Mote it Be!

HP: Welcome into the family (name of child).

The child is then passed around to be greeted, blessed and kissed.

Magick in the Life of a Child

Whether by birth, adoption, or association with another parent, the entrance of a child into one's life is one of the finest and greatest experiences that life has to offer. An ancient Chinese proverb states, "It is the wise parent who gives his child roots and wings."

Our roots are the ties that bind us to one another by blood and make us a family. They are the collective totality of our shared experiences, both good and bad. They are the stories we tell time and again over shared meals, they are the tears that we shed at a common pain.

Our roots teach us the value of history, and learning from those who have gone before. Roots are fostered with daily doses of quality time, the ordinary things that you do together in any given day, the family traditions that make sense only to you and yours.

Our roots are present at the very moment of our conception in our mother's womb; however, we sprout our wings the day that we are born. From the moment that we take our first breath in the world, we take the first steps on our journey of becoming who we are. Though we are momentarily dependent on those who take care of us, we are striving ever forward on our journey to wholeness. Whereas our roots are the ties that bind us together, our wings represent the gift of free will, and the things which define us as individuals.

Our wings carry us through daily experiences, and most notably during those rites of passage that all must face at the appointed hour. Those moments that tell us that we are where we are supposed to be, the first love, the triumph of obtaining our driver's license, graduation, our first paycheck, the first time we make love, the first time we become parents ourselves..........

As the wheel of life revolves, we may one day have children of our own, and pass on to them the gift of roots and wings. If not to our own children, then to the child of another, for it has been said that 'it takes a village to raise a child.' And as the waters of the Earth run to the Sea, we too return to our own roots, as our progeny carries forward with this, their legacy; those intangible things more common that air, or dirt; more priceless than gold, or rubies. The child that you love becomes that adult that you respect, and the one that holds your hand when it is your time to journey to the Summerland.

This solitary ritual is written for the individual to perform privately, or with a small group of like minded individuals. after the traditional funeral of your spiritual tradition has been performed. It serves the purpose of allowing the individual as well as the departed to move on to that which awaits them on the Other side.

On an altar draped in shades of blue are three candles, which are white, red, and black representing life, death, and rebirth respectively. Before this is the cauldron of rebirth and lying next to it is a silver cord in which a know has been tied. The remaining space on the altar is decorated with pictures o the deceased, as well as their favorite things such as their favorite book, food, scents, etc... 

When all is prepared, light the candles and say:

"That which is apart of us, can never be apart from us. The wheel is ever turning, and as life is a day, so has (N) passed into night. Nothing is final, and we who are left behind know that we will share in the cakes and wind with out brother/sister again. O' blessed spirit, we bid farewell, for you awaits a new destiny."

The silver cord (which symbolically ties the spirit to the body) is untied and burned by the candle which represent rebirth and dropped into the cauldron of regeneration. 

Note: This ritual is heavily based on the funeral of Prue Halliwell as depicted in the Charmed episode "Charmed Again," along with my own changes.Though it was inspired by a somewhat controversial television show, I found it's beauty and simplicity appropriate and, unfortunately, I've had two occasions to perform it in the last few years. It helped me a great deal and I think it can help others as well.   

Light a candle to the indivual's memory, and say the following prayer. 

"Blessed Be Hecate, Goddess of the Underworld for she hath regenerated us from the Underworld and has saved us from spiritual death. Hecate, grant that you would preserve (N) and lead him/her to walk the earth again and stand beneath your starry skies; may our lives intertwine again and grant us the ability to remember!"

A Handfasting is an old Celtic term used to denote a wedding ritual. If performed by a recognized clergy, Handfastings represent a binding contract and are legal. However, they can also be performed by a High Priestess or High Priest of a coven, even though they may not have obtained a legal clergy status. These weddings may or may not be considered legal when you take into account "common-law" status etc... and you will have to check the laws in your area for more information about this subject.

However, a High Priest or High Priestess is not required to officiate a Handfasting. If the couple does not desire a legally binding wedding, they may perform a ritual themselves where they make their vows to each other before Nature and/or the Gods. 

Unlike weddings in other religions, a Wiccan Handfasting is thought to last only as long as the two participants wish to remain wed. The couple may or may not indicate prior to the actual Handfasting how long they intend their marriage to last. It may be for a year and a day, it may be so long as their love shall last, for their lifetime, and even beyond. 

Most couples enjoy writing their rituals themselves, or along with their High Priest/ess.

A Handfasting Ceremony

with an officiant

An altar is erected bearing a wedding cake flanked on either side by large pillar candles. Before the cake are arranged the athame, a red cord, and a cup of white wine. In addition there may be red roses strewn about the altar. 

The HP stands with his or her back to the altar and music is played  to indicate the beginning of the ceremony. 

HP: As marriage is a journey taken together let the bride and groom come to us together in perfect love and perfect trust of their own free will and mind.  

The HP lights the candles on the altar and invokes the presence of the God and Godddess to bear witness in the joining of the two lovers. 

HP (Lighting Candles): Lord and Lady, as we come together here today to join these two souls as one, we ask that you be with us and move among us.  Bless (Groom) and (Bride), their love, and their joining for as long as they both shall live. So Mote it Be. 

The wedding guest then form a circle of brooms around the altar and the couple, then take their seats again. 

HP (addressing the crowd):  The circle is complete and we are between the worlds. Here the realm of spirit meets the world of men and become one. In like fashion, we have gathered here today before the ancient gods and our loved ones to unite  this man and this woman in holy matrimony. For love is more than the joining of flesh to flesh or a meeting of the minds, it is a powerful connect felt deep down within our very souls. 

PAUSE to allow everyone to reflect on what has been said. 

Who is the groom?

The guests states the grooms name in unison. 

Who is the bride?

The guests states the brides name in unison. 

HP (addressing the couple): Do you (N) and (N) join us here today of your own free will and mind to acknowlege the bond shared by you both?

If the answer is yes, then the HP directs the couple to face one another and join hands, followed by the recital of their vows to one another. If desired, they may exchange rings as their vows are recited. When they are done, the HP binds the couple's left hands together with a red cord and says:

Here before our Lord and Lady, and these witnesses, (N) and (N) have sworn their eternal vows to one another. With this cord, I hereby bind them to those vows. So Mote it be. 

Everyone: So Mote It Be. 

The HP directs the couple to cut the cake using only their right hands. They then each feed a piece of the cake to one another, and then each take a sip of white wine from the cup.This is a task that they must accomplish by working together. 

HP: (N) and (N) as you partake of this food and drink, consider the sacrifice made by the wheat that became the flour in your cake, and of the grapes that became the wine in your cup; when you face adversity, do not dwell on the sacrifices you have made for love but remember that strength comes from adversity. Just as you care for each others needs here today may you be ever mindful that for a marriage to work you must work together. So Mote it Be. 

Everyone: So Mote it Be!

Finally, the couple turns and jumps over the brooms out of the circle  and into the arms of their family and friends who shower them with blessings. All in attendance make merry and join in partaking of food and drink.